||My partner wasn’t a furry when we started dating, but when he saw how much fun I was having in the fandom, he volunteered to join me!
To catch yourself a lover, you must first be a lover. Cultivate your inner Gomez Addams, if need be. A good rule of thumb is to be your own version of attractive. What would YOU like in a partner? Be that for yourself first.
Want someone who understands you? Understand yourself. Read self-help books and journal to sort through difficult emotions. See a therapist. Do something cathartic for you, like writing angry letters and then deleting them.
Want someone hot? Pamper yourself with hygiene products and some clothes you feel confident and desirable in.
Want someone who’s talented? YOU have to be talented in order to attract similar people. Practice any and all skills that you want to be good at. Make it as fun as possible, so you’ll want to practice every day.
I found my love on Twitter because I admired his artwork. I started a conversation by asking him what program he uses to make his gorgeous paintings. I did my best to make him feel comfortable and non-pressured. I made sure to flatter him with sincere compliments, and I thanked him for the ones he gave back to me. I knew it was time to ask him out when we he started to flirt with me, not the other way ’round. I could also tell it was time, because we had been in almost constant communication for a couple months. We both knew we liked each other and wanted to spend more time together.
With my previous partner, our relationship began with a silly game of tag. We were at an outdoor event, and I playfully tagged him and ran off. He thought this was cute, and chased after me. I wanted to catch this guy’s attention, so I made sure I was taking good care of myself and looking and acting my best. I asked him out to dinner one day, and we talked about our interests. At some point, I semi-casually pointed out that, if he were to ask me to be his sweetheart, I’d say yes. The rest is history.
With almost all other previous partners, I put myself in a place where I could meet like-minded and similar-aged people with no pressure. Courtship should be focused mostly on making sure the other person is comfortable. Without a high enough level of comfort and trust from the other person, you will get nowhere.
And, of course, consent is key. Research what stalking, manipulation, etc. are, so you’re clear on what these terms mean and can avoid doing them.
Your goal as a lover is to create a metaphorical oasis in yourself for both you and your sweetheart. You have to tend to their needs a little bit more than yours. You have to put some work into learning their favourite foods, and what gifts to spoil them with, and how to care for them if they catch a cold.
But first, and above all else, find your truest, kindest self, and be a person you can be proud of. The rest will come to you with ease.||
||Well, what are you looking for in a relationship?
What can you provide going into one?
What do you want the woman to provide to the relationship?
What are you looking for in a woman?
Do you have any hobbies and/or interests?
Are you physically exercising?
What mental exercises are you doing, if any?
Do you have any friends? Family?
A relationship is about give and take. Whether or not you can relate to one another. And, if applicable, looks. There are a plethora of factors that come into play when it comes to a relationship and whether or not it will work out.
What you need to do is to be a person other people want to be around. Be happy with yourself. Be happy with who and what you are. Stand fast on your principles.||
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