StrangeKittenOfTheFabulousKilljoys
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What do you call it when someone asks you for help with their Western Union app by… asking you to download the app and make your own account? You call it a fuck that! Combine with:
🚩She has only ever shown me pictures, no voice messages or video
🚩No trace of her online I can find to be reassured of her identity (Facebook profile barely has anything on it and even lists the incorrect location of where she says she lives).
🚩Said she fell for me and talks about being lonely which is a mixed bag - people can be genuine when they say these things, even quickly (my wife and I were genuine about it) but it can also be an emotional manipulation tactic
🚩Kept pressuring me to talk on Zangi even though we had been using Facebook messenger and there is zero difference between the two apps other than Zangi boasting about “anonymous” and “private” it is. I couldn’t download it for days because my phone wouldn’t download any apps in general until I finally figured out a fix. No big deal to me at first, until the whole WU app thing
🚩Hasn’t replied to our chat since she said “Well, it’s your choice and life” about me refusing to make an account on the WU app - benefit of the doubt because it has been nighttime (though it has shown her to have gotten online a few times since) but I don’t like how much that sounds like an ultimatum. Nor do I like how this has the potential to turn into ghosting if I don’t make an account on the WU app.
🚩For anyone who doesn’t know what Western Union is, it’s a major bank in the US. See the problem yet? It’s possible that making an account on the app would require my debit card info.
🚩Claims she needs the help with the app (which she says isn’t working on her phone) to make payments to her daughter’s caretaker. Daughter is in boarding school. Has sent a pic of her daughter and another pic of herself with her daughter. So, you can see why there’s some sense of legitimacy that she is who she says she is, but definitely not enough for something like this. The daughter thing is also an appeal to emotion, which yes could be legit, or could be a manipulation tactic.
🚩”I’ve been telling you how I have been struggling with it for days now” as if I was somehow supposed to do something about it??? Obviously, she’s states away so I couldn’t exactly take her phone and try to fix the app on there. It’s possible I’m assigning a negative intent to this sentence when there wasn’t actually one, but I really don’t like it. On the one hand, maybe I’m not being catfished and she’s neurodivergent or something. On the other hand, maybe I am and the implication is that I should have downloaded the WU app sooner, which I really really don’t like. It makes me wonder if she’s committed identity theft so often that she just sort of expected me to offer to download the app myself? Maybe I’m missing something because I’ve never done my banking using an app, but I just don’t like it. Really really don’t like doing anything involving banking with someone I’ve only been talking to for around a month and whose actual identity is questionable.
🚩I’ve sent her many voice messages (thankfully nothing too intimate) and she has never sent a single one. Chalked it up to being busy and even potentially having vocal dysphoria, but now…
If she can give me enough proof that she is who she says she is, I’m willing to keep working on this relationship. Otherwise, this is where I nope tf out. I hate what happened tonight. Everything seemed like it was going very well up to this point, and most things are only leaning so heavily towards red flaggy after having been asked to download and create an account on the WU app. Sigh… well, I did say I was going to be spending time making sure she’s really trustworthy. Just a huge bummer that it now seems like there’s a strong possibility of the answer being no.
Edit: Okay so, all it took was Googling "Zangi scams" and I'm just starting to go down the rabbit hole of romance scammers. Already, too much lines up. Pretending to be a doctor, meeting and talking on Facebook at first but then moving over to Zangi. The too-quick declaration of feelings. Some people in the Youtube comments of a video I've clicked on but decided to go comments first, are even saying that they've encountered women who are being honest about their identity but still trying to scam people out of money. So, let this be a lesson to everyone that this kind of thing is something to be very aware of. If they ask for money, run! Or even be like me and run the second a banking app is mentioned lol;😅 ^-^ Sucks for sure, but at least I don't feel hurt because shit ended so quickly and I ran when I should have
🚩She has only ever shown me pictures, no voice messages or video
🚩No trace of her online I can find to be reassured of her identity (Facebook profile barely has anything on it and even lists the incorrect location of where she says she lives).
🚩Said she fell for me and talks about being lonely which is a mixed bag - people can be genuine when they say these things, even quickly (my wife and I were genuine about it) but it can also be an emotional manipulation tactic
🚩Kept pressuring me to talk on Zangi even though we had been using Facebook messenger and there is zero difference between the two apps other than Zangi boasting about “anonymous” and “private” it is. I couldn’t download it for days because my phone wouldn’t download any apps in general until I finally figured out a fix. No big deal to me at first, until the whole WU app thing
🚩Hasn’t replied to our chat since she said “Well, it’s your choice and life” about me refusing to make an account on the WU app - benefit of the doubt because it has been nighttime (though it has shown her to have gotten online a few times since) but I don’t like how much that sounds like an ultimatum. Nor do I like how this has the potential to turn into ghosting if I don’t make an account on the WU app.
🚩For anyone who doesn’t know what Western Union is, it’s a major bank in the US. See the problem yet? It’s possible that making an account on the app would require my debit card info.
🚩Claims she needs the help with the app (which she says isn’t working on her phone) to make payments to her daughter’s caretaker. Daughter is in boarding school. Has sent a pic of her daughter and another pic of herself with her daughter. So, you can see why there’s some sense of legitimacy that she is who she says she is, but definitely not enough for something like this. The daughter thing is also an appeal to emotion, which yes could be legit, or could be a manipulation tactic.
🚩”I’ve been telling you how I have been struggling with it for days now” as if I was somehow supposed to do something about it??? Obviously, she’s states away so I couldn’t exactly take her phone and try to fix the app on there. It’s possible I’m assigning a negative intent to this sentence when there wasn’t actually one, but I really don’t like it. On the one hand, maybe I’m not being catfished and she’s neurodivergent or something. On the other hand, maybe I am and the implication is that I should have downloaded the WU app sooner, which I really really don’t like. It makes me wonder if she’s committed identity theft so often that she just sort of expected me to offer to download the app myself? Maybe I’m missing something because I’ve never done my banking using an app, but I just don’t like it. Really really don’t like doing anything involving banking with someone I’ve only been talking to for around a month and whose actual identity is questionable.
🚩I’ve sent her many voice messages (thankfully nothing too intimate) and she has never sent a single one. Chalked it up to being busy and even potentially having vocal dysphoria, but now…
If she can give me enough proof that she is who she says she is, I’m willing to keep working on this relationship. Otherwise, this is where I nope tf out. I hate what happened tonight. Everything seemed like it was going very well up to this point, and most things are only leaning so heavily towards red flaggy after having been asked to download and create an account on the WU app. Sigh… well, I did say I was going to be spending time making sure she’s really trustworthy. Just a huge bummer that it now seems like there’s a strong possibility of the answer being no.
Edit: Okay so, all it took was Googling "Zangi scams" and I'm just starting to go down the rabbit hole of romance scammers. Already, too much lines up. Pretending to be a doctor, meeting and talking on Facebook at first but then moving over to Zangi. The too-quick declaration of feelings. Some people in the Youtube comments of a video I've clicked on but decided to go comments first, are even saying that they've encountered women who are being honest about their identity but still trying to scam people out of money. So, let this be a lesson to everyone that this kind of thing is something to be very aware of. If they ask for money, run! Or even be like me and run the second a banking app is mentioned lol