Also, the entire thing started because I said I don’t eat a vegan diet, and recommended that anyone who does make sure they get their vitamin levels monitored, if possible. That’s not anti-vegan. I’m not anti-vegan. Did they think I am merely because I said that?
But they got all offended and turned it into this big thing.
Well, I was about to say I learned nothing from it, because none of what they whined about wasn’t stuff I didn’t already know, but I actually did learn something valuable: they are very easily offended. Too easily offended. I don’t like the parallels my mind is currently drawing to my abusive ex.
They say they do shadow work, which is when you deal with your shadow self, basically overcome your negative aspects and heal from your trauma. Yet, our few interactions have mostly been them coming at me with this intense attitude, highly critical of the stuff I post. I’m torn between whether they’re manipulative or just someone with a ton of unresolved trauma, and I don’t like how the whole vegan thing has me leaning toward the former. It’s supposed to be a non-hierarchical group, yet they went full authoritarian on me. Not good.
Writing about this here is my process. I don’t do it with the intent to attack or anything. Note that I have named zero names. Writing here lets me let off the steam about it, and I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with them. If this is going to be some “leader” of our group, I don’t like what I’ve seen of them thus far. They’ve come at me in increasingly agitated states, rather than approach with calmness and clarity. It’s a very limited perspective on them, I’m sure, but it doesn’t bode well.